My husband, Dave, is a very smart man. That got him lots of raises and promotions during his working years. But, his employee evaluations also included comments about his poor communication skills. Here’s a recent example from our current life:
Our shower enclosure includes a hand held shower head that rests on a bracket that is height adjustable. I recently asked him to lower it. Which he did.
So, while it was now easier for me to reach, it also became harder for me to lift the shower head from the bracket.
So I asked him if he twisted the shower head.
“No.”
Did he turn it?
“No.”
Did he swivel it?
“No.”
…
Finally he said, “I rotated it.”
*AARGH*, I said within my head.
Out loud I gently asked, “Whatever you did will you, please, undo it?”
“OK.”
Apparently, I need to be careful with my wording when asking Dave a question. Perhaps, if I had asked, “Did you do anything else to the shower head other than lowering it?” I would have received a correct answer immediately. But perhaps not since what he lowered was the bracket in which the shower head rests rather than the shower head itself. Perhaps, I needed to ask about the bracket.
But what if “bracket” wasn’t the right word, either?
TTYL,
Linda
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